Hi,
Here's one hot off the press that I think you will really enjoy. I was shutting down for the day on Friday and a guy called me from the New England area. He had gotten my name from one of my clients and needed a little coaching on a special problem he was experiencing. He works for a company that is high stress and, according to him, is not completely satisfied with his performance. Actually, he's not quite satisfied either. Anyway, he gets a call from a friend that another company is looking for a person with his qualification. So he contacts the company. To make a long story short, his present company finds out and confronts him with the fact that he's looking for another job. He tells them the truth about how this came about and thought that would be all there was to it. But, no - it's not all there is to it. The hiring company calls him for an interview.
So, here's the question he had for me - "Do I tell them I'm going for the interview or not? It was a great question that he actually already had the answer to. Yes, you do tell them. It's always better, and I might add ethical, to tell the truth. In this situation we came up with several good things that will come out of the truth. First, the guy will feel better about himself for being honest (he will also be more energized - it takes a lot of energy to be dishonest). Second, if the present employer would fire him for wanting to better himself he might be working for the wrong company. Third, his action will let his present boss know they can trust him (no secrets). Fourth, and most important, this will reinforce this man's commitment to be truthful, even if it costs in the long run.
I congratulate him for his character.
Dr. Bob
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