We established in the last Energy Messge that the boss from Hades negatively affects the energy and productivity of a team. I'm certain many of you have examples you can offer about such a boss, especially examples of how enterprise energy was drained. The obvious question is, "What do I do about it?"
Here's a good principle to operate by when faced with any difficulty - The responsibility for change is always, always up to me. When something or someone is causing adversity in my life, it's up to me to do something about it. All the complaining in the world about another person is not going to make them different. We can change no one! All changes come from within me! Here's a few ideas for dealing with the boss from the underworld:
1) Give this person time, but not energy - Accept him or her for exactly what they are - hard to live with! Never expect miraculous recovery from people who de-energize others.
2) Deal only with facts when you talk with the boss - Don't offer excuses or explanations. If he wanted them he will ask for them.
3) If the abuse becomes unbearable - Set up a private meeting to let him or her know that this type communication doesn't work for you. How can we do it better?
4) If you are losing too much energy and it's affecting your life - You can always exercise your "Walk-away Point." No job is so good that you have to stay and be miserable.
Best to you all,
Dr. Bob
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